During one of my coffee sessions with some fellow parents, the subject of sexual orientations came up in our conversations. One mom asserted that she found the whole idea of gays and lesbians atrocious and adverse to her Christian beliefs. A dad chimes in, shaking his head and quipping with disdain about the rise in young school girls dabbling in lesbianism.
Another mom mentioned that she ‘does not mind’ colleagues and business associates whom she knows are gay, but she definitely ‘disapproves’ of their sexual preference. Most of the mothers echo the same sentiment, claiming they will be devastated if their children have any homosexual tendencies.
I was surprised by their torrent of rebuke and a little taken aback by the ‘disapproval’ comment. I have very good friends who are gay. Granted that I don’t delve too much into their community, but I respect their choices of partners and lifestyle. They have their own ‘gay’ friends that I meet once in a blue moon and they don’t encroach on my ‘straightness’ – if there’s even such a word. We tease each other about our sexual orientation – sometimes I’m too much of a straight-jacket for them; and sometimes they are just too gay for me. But we always respect each other’s boundaries, if you will.
I don’t think our approval is needed or relevant to them. An alternative lifestyle is their choice or a pre-destined constitution. But I know better than to dive into a heady argument that is about perceptions. Besides, I was treading on very thin religious and moral ice.
Then again, my friends are not your “in-your-face” gays. These hardcore homosexuals scare me. And I can understand why society may be put off by their ideals. I don’t have a ready answer for this subject. It is still an ongoing conflict within me. I just hope that my gay friends who are reading this will forgive me for not being brave and strong enough yet to stand up for them. But I hope for their sake that the tide may be turning if the recent celebration of Pink Dot day is anything to go by.
A record number of 15,000 Singaporeans came together on Saturday, 30 June at Hong Lim Park to celebrate the 4-year-old event. The Pink Dot movement supports the freedom to love, and encourages Singaporeans to speak up for their lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender friends and relatives.
It is one thing to attend an event supporting gay rights and hang out with gay friends. But it is something else when you are asked to put your stamp on it.
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What’s your stand? Will you bring your child to an event like the Pink Dot? And if so, how old should they be before you explain to your child what the Pink Dot movement is about?